Thank you x

[the_muppet]

I'm overwhelmed by all your comments and kind words to my last post about my brother - I cried and smiled in, I think, equal amounts - thank you so much, it means more to me than I can say. I wish I could thank you all properly but really, I wouldn't know how right now, so please know how much it means to me. I'm sorry I've not managed to reply today - I'm a bit of a mess actually - and I thought it might be easier if I did another post now and let you know how things are.

I've just got off the phone with Lyndsey (Lyndsey is his ex-girlfriend and mother of his 5-year old son) and my aunt - Lyndsey went to see him this afternoon. The operation went okay but they have had to remove part of his bowel. He lost a lot of blood before and during the operation and has had transfusions and is all wired up to stuff and is having to use an oxygen mask, and obviously he's pretty out of it on morphine as it was a pretty big operation. He's not allowed anything to eat or drink for a while and only a tiny amount of water each hour as they have to see that everything is going through his system as it should. They're fairly sure the operation was a success and their main concern right now is internal bleeding so obviously they're monitoring him pretty closely.

Lyndsey said he has staples all down his front where they opened him him up from his chest to his stomach to try and find any other damage and that the doctors have said he was extremely lucky. I really, really want to go see him this evening but right now I'm a bit of a mess - shock and tiredness has made me a bit of an emo wreck and it all just seems so unreal and it's took me ages to write this due to being an emo wreck - so I don't know if I can or I will. I think it's unlikely that I'll go to work tomorrow though.

So that's it really - right now he's doing as well as can be expected and should - all being well - be okay eventually. Thank you again - all of you - for everything you've said and for taking the time - it's really meant so much to me today. Right now, I really need to either pull myself together and go see him or decide that I'm not and have a drink or ten and get some sleep. I think pacing around the flat is not actually helping.

*hugs you all*

Comments

[vita-candeo.livejournal.com]

If I could, I would get on a plane right now and come and give you a hug and be a shoulder to cry on *major cyber hugs*

It is good to know he's going to be okay in the long run. At least they only got the bowel; you can live fine with a shorter amount. Hard to live without a liver had they gotten that or something instead.

Have a drink (maybe two,) put on some (cheerful) music, and just sing. If you can get a friend to come over, do, even if you don't talk, having another person with you is really good. Tomorrow, if you don't go to work, don't just stay home. It's good to get back out of the house. Go walk up and down the pier or something. Just get outside, go window shopping, do something. That always helps me when something really bad happens. *hugs*

[huntress1013.livejournal.com]

:hugs back: I really wish I could have done more. :hugs some more:

[from-the-corner.livejournal.com]

*huge, huge hugs*

[rae1013.livejournal.com]

I've been missing do to my new fandoms and haven't been on lj in days. I'm just so sorry to hear about your brother and do wish him and your family the best. You're in my thoughts today. And know that there's no wrong choice. A situation like this is terrible and everyone has to handle it the best that they can. If you find that you can't handle seeing your brother in hospital then alcohol is definitely an excellent option.

I wish I could do more then type up my thoughts for you. I wish I could help you get your drink on or hold your hand at the hospital. Again, my thoughts are with you today. *hugs*

[larianelensar.livejournal.com]

My guess is that he won't care if you're an emo mess, just go see him! *hugs*

[thandie.livejournal.com]

Maybe if you are going to see him you'll feel better? Even if probably he won't talk because he's on meds...I know it would make *me* feel better to know I'm close to him, but I'm talking for myself and my bro obviously now.
I'm glad to hear surgery went well...good luck!

[mir8lle.livejournal.com]

Have a rest and go see him tomorrow when you're felling better. As someone who just did the whole hospital thing with her own brother, let me assure you that it's much easier to cope with everything when you've had enough sleep and are calm. Hospitals are terribly depressing places as it is, and I always find it ver difficult to cope in them. I don't know to what extent you feel the same, but am pretty certain that your brother won't begrudge it.

I'm glad to hear that he is doing better. I wish him a very safe and speedy recovery, and hope they catch the bastard(s) that did this. If you need anything, I am just an email away.

*hugs*

[suzyx.livejournal.com]

I just caught up from your last entry.

I'm so very sorry this happened to your brother! It sounds like he is being taken care of very well, I wish him a speedy recovery and I'm sending positive thoughts to you and your family. *hugs*

[meg-tdj.livejournal.com]

Yikes! *hugs* I hope he gets better soon!

[aramley.livejournal.com]

Hey, I'm glad your brother came through his operation well. I wish there was more I could do than tell you that I'm thinking of you and hoping that everything turns out okay *massive hugs*

[vuleimoor.livejournal.com]

Just so shocked, just now read both the posts.

Hope he gets better soon.

*hugs you tight*

[gayalondiel.livejournal.com]

*tight tight hugs*

[el1ie.livejournal.com]

(((hugs)))

Just take care of yourself too ok?

[beckytheelf.livejournal.com]

*hugs tightly*
I hope everything works out fine for you and your family sweetie. I'm here thinking of you!!!!!!! *loves*

[lilithilien.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the update. I'm so glad the surgery went well. No, pacing around the flat probably isn't helping, but I don't blame you for being an emo wreck. I wish I could be with you to offer support when you go to the hospital. But it sounds like he's in good hands. *hugs*

[aruna7.livejournal.com]

I just found your post, hon and read the previous one. I'm so sorry about your brother, but really glad that he is doing as well as possible for the moment. *hugs you very tight*

I hope that you'll be able to find some sleep, honey. I'll keep your brother and his friends in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs you more*

[legoline.livejournal.com]

I don't pray, but I'll keep you in my thoughts.

*big damn hug*

[yokiem.livejournal.com]

{{hug}}

[bookwormprinces.livejournal.com]

Yes. Go to SLEEP. I'm sure it will help loads. :)

*heffa hugs*

Your brother Andrew

[ms-3m.livejournal.com]

Oh M! {{{HUGS }}}

I've just managed to get onto LJ (via my mobile) and I saw this post first and then quickly (well not so quick all things considered) backtracked to find your earlier post for explanation.

I'm so sorry to read what happened. Andrew, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Even though I may physically be on the other side of the pond from you, I truly think that positive energy and good vibes know no distance. So if you get this little warm fuzzy feeling, that will be me giving you a hug.

As far as distracting yourself in work, there is nothing with that. There is comfort in the familiar and the routine.

Please keep me/us posted as you feel able.

*more hugs*

[sol-se.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. But I'm very happy to hear that the operation seems to have gone well. You and your brother are in my thoughts.

[starrylizard.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

[valika56.livejournal.com]

This could be really shocking for you what happened to your brother, I feel with you. Hopefully he will recover soon. My thoughts is with you. Take care of yourself! *hugs*

[bellasianna.livejournal.com]

Ok I just read the first post and now see this one.
It's good to hear he seems to be doing well so far. I'm sending every hopeful wish for his speedy recovery, and that yuo will feel up to visitng him and not be too upset by it.

*hugs*

[kimberweeme.livejournal.com]

Oh my word, I just saw this. (Naturally.) I am so sorry this happened to your family! How horrible for all of you. I hope things are looking a little bit better today.

I'll keep you, your brother, his friends, and all the family in my prayers.

*hugs*