Thank you x

[the_muppet]

I'm overwhelmed by all your comments and kind words to my last post about my brother - I cried and smiled in, I think, equal amounts - thank you so much, it means more to me than I can say. I wish I could thank you all properly but really, I wouldn't know how right now, so please know how much it means to me. I'm sorry I've not managed to reply today - I'm a bit of a mess actually - and I thought it might be easier if I did another post now and let you know how things are.

I've just got off the phone with Lyndsey (Lyndsey is his ex-girlfriend and mother of his 5-year old son) and my aunt - Lyndsey went to see him this afternoon. The operation went okay but they have had to remove part of his bowel. He lost a lot of blood before and during the operation and has had transfusions and is all wired up to stuff and is having to use an oxygen mask, and obviously he's pretty out of it on morphine as it was a pretty big operation. He's not allowed anything to eat or drink for a while and only a tiny amount of water each hour as they have to see that everything is going through his system as it should. They're fairly sure the operation was a success and their main concern right now is internal bleeding so obviously they're monitoring him pretty closely.

Lyndsey said he has staples all down his front where they opened him him up from his chest to his stomach to try and find any other damage and that the doctors have said he was extremely lucky. I really, really want to go see him this evening but right now I'm a bit of a mess - shock and tiredness has made me a bit of an emo wreck and it all just seems so unreal and it's took me ages to write this due to being an emo wreck - so I don't know if I can or I will. I think it's unlikely that I'll go to work tomorrow though.

So that's it really - right now he's doing as well as can be expected and should - all being well - be okay eventually. Thank you again - all of you - for everything you've said and for taking the time - it's really meant so much to me today. Right now, I really need to either pull myself together and go see him or decide that I'm not and have a drink or ten and get some sleep. I think pacing around the flat is not actually helping.

*hugs you all*

Comments

[vita-candeo.livejournal.com]

If I could, I would get on a plane right now and come and give you a hug and be a shoulder to cry on *major cyber hugs*

It is good to know he's going to be okay in the long run. At least they only got the bowel; you can live fine with a shorter amount. Hard to live without a liver had they gotten that or something instead.

Have a drink (maybe two,) put on some (cheerful) music, and just sing. If you can get a friend to come over, do, even if you don't talk, having another person with you is really good. Tomorrow, if you don't go to work, don't just stay home. It's good to get back out of the house. Go walk up and down the pier or something. Just get outside, go window shopping, do something. That always helps me when something really bad happens. *hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much - I really did need someone around as it was all just so unreal, and I did finally ask my friend Emma to come round last night - and she was a little cross I'd not phoned earlier =)

I'm feeling a lot calmer and less tired than I have and I hope to see him today which is good =)

*hugs*

[huntress1013.livejournal.com]

:hugs back: I really wish I could have done more. :hugs some more:

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much - and you did enough, just knowing you're there is enough, honestly and thank you so much for taking the time =)

*hugs*

[from-the-corner.livejournal.com]

*huge, huge hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

*huge hugs back* thanks for everyting this weekend =)

[rae1013.livejournal.com]

I've been missing do to my new fandoms and haven't been on lj in days. I'm just so sorry to hear about your brother and do wish him and your family the best. You're in my thoughts today. And know that there's no wrong choice. A situation like this is terrible and everyone has to handle it the best that they can. If you find that you can't handle seeing your brother in hospital then alcohol is definitely an excellent option.

I wish I could do more then type up my thoughts for you. I wish I could help you get your drink on or hold your hand at the hospital. Again, my thoughts are with you today. *hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

A few drinks last night was just what I needed, if only to help me finally get some sleep and I just got up from 12 hours in bed, which I definitely needed =)

I'm going to see him this evening so that will be good - thank you for your kind words =)

*HUGS*

[larianelensar.livejournal.com]

My guess is that he won't care if you're an emo mess, just go see him! *hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

I'm going to see him this evening - now I'm a little more human and a helluva lot less tired =) *hugs*

[thandie.livejournal.com]

Maybe if you are going to see him you'll feel better? Even if probably he won't talk because he's on meds...I know it would make *me* feel better to know I'm close to him, but I'm talking for myself and my bro obviously now.
I'm glad to hear surgery went well...good luck!

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

I'm going to see him this evening and it will be good to actually see how he is rather than hearing everyting 2nd- and 3rd-hand - hopefully the worst is over now and he can concentrate on recovering =) Thanks so much for all your kind words, they were and are very much appreciated =)

*hugs*

[mir8lle.livejournal.com]

Have a rest and go see him tomorrow when you're felling better. As someone who just did the whole hospital thing with her own brother, let me assure you that it's much easier to cope with everything when you've had enough sleep and are calm. Hospitals are terribly depressing places as it is, and I always find it ver difficult to cope in them. I don't know to what extent you feel the same, but am pretty certain that your brother won't begrudge it.

I'm glad to hear that he is doing better. I wish him a very safe and speedy recovery, and hope they catch the bastard(s) that did this. If you need anything, I am just an email away.

*hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

I think it was more the shock and unrealness of it all more than anything else - like you said before about knife crime, you hear about it every day but when it personally affects you it just seems so unreal. It will be good to finally get to see him and I do feel a lot calmer and more positive today - which I think all the sleep I just got has helped with =)

Thank you so much for everything you've said - I really, really appreciate it =)

*hugs hard*

[suzyx.livejournal.com]

I just caught up from your last entry.

I'm so very sorry this happened to your brother! It sounds like he is being taken care of very well, I wish him a speedy recovery and I'm sending positive thoughts to you and your family. *hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much, I really apprecaite you taking the time - things certainly feel a lot more positive today now I've had a huge sleep and I know I'll get to see him later =)

*hugs*

[meg-tdj.livejournal.com]

Yikes! *hugs* I hope he gets better soon!

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you =) *hugs*

[aramley.livejournal.com]

Hey, I'm glad your brother came through his operation well. I wish there was more I could do than tell you that I'm thinking of you and hoping that everything turns out okay *massive hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

I'm sure everyting will be okay now - he's through the worst of it I'm sure and I do feel a lot better than I did - sleep and alcohol really do wonders, don't they?

*hugs*

[vuleimoor.livejournal.com]

Just so shocked, just now read both the posts.

Hope he gets better soon.

*hugs you tight*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much - it really has just been a totally surreal weekend and I'm glad that I've not got to go into work today and that I'll get to see him this evening =)

*hugs*

[gayalondiel.livejournal.com]

*tight tight hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much hon *hugs hard back*

[el1ie.livejournal.com]

(((hugs)))

Just take care of yourself too ok?

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Oh, I am now - now the shock and everything has worn off I've actually slept and eaten *lol* and feel a whole lot better and more positive - plus I'll see him later which is a good thing =)

*HUGS*

[beckytheelf.livejournal.com]

*hugs tightly*
I hope everything works out fine for you and your family sweetie. I'm here thinking of you!!!!!!! *loves*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you hon, I really appreciate it ♥

[lilithilien.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the update. I'm so glad the surgery went well. No, pacing around the flat probably isn't helping, but I don't blame you for being an emo wreck. I wish I could be with you to offer support when you go to the hospital. But it sounds like he's in good hands. *hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Having to talk to so many people on the phone yesterday wasn't helping either i don't think, people calling to know stuff and get info - I really wasn't in the right frame of mind - but I've had a damn good sleep now and I'll see him later so I'm feeling a lot more positive - and thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts, I really do appreciate it very much =)

*hugs*

[aruna7.livejournal.com]

I just found your post, hon and read the previous one. I'm so sorry about your brother, but really glad that he is doing as well as possible for the moment. *hugs you very tight*

I hope that you'll be able to find some sleep, honey. I'll keep your brother and his friends in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs you more*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you very much - I've had some sleep and am feeling a lot more postivie today =)

Hope the move went well and that you're settling in okay =)

*hugs*

[legoline.livejournal.com]

I don't pray, but I'll keep you in my thoughts.

*big damn hug*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much - I've really appreciated everything eceryone has said and done and it's helped more than I can say.

*hugs hard*

[yokiem.livejournal.com]

{{hug}}

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you =)

*hugs*

[bookwormprinces.livejournal.com]

Yes. Go to SLEEP. I'm sure it will help loads. :)

*heffa hugs*

[bookwormprinces.livejournal.com]

Okay, now I'm looking at what I just said in all it's cold, plain text-ness and I realize that it kind of looks sarcastic. *eep!* It's totally not. I think sleep will make you feel better and help you to relax. ^_^

Just so we're clear.

*more heffa hugs*

Your brother Andrew

[ms-3m.livejournal.com]

Oh M! {{{HUGS }}}

I've just managed to get onto LJ (via my mobile) and I saw this post first and then quickly (well not so quick all things considered) backtracked to find your earlier post for explanation.

I'm so sorry to read what happened. Andrew, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Even though I may physically be on the other side of the pond from you, I truly think that positive energy and good vibes know no distance. So if you get this little warm fuzzy feeling, that will be me giving you a hug.

As far as distracting yourself in work, there is nothing with that. There is comfort in the familiar and the routine.

Please keep me/us posted as you feel able.

*more hugs*

Re: Your brother Andrew

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Well i've finally got some sleep and am feeling more human and less freaked out that I did - this weekend has just been so frickin surreal. I'll hopefully go see him this evening and work have told me not to come in today for which I'm grateful, so i'm just going to mooch around relaxing and catching up with online worky stuff and keeping myself occupied =)

Thanks so much hon ♥

*huge hugs*

[sol-se.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. But I'm very happy to hear that the operation seems to have gone well. You and your brother are in my thoughts.

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much =)

[starrylizard.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

*hugs hard back*

Thanks for everything Lizzie =) x

[valika56.livejournal.com]

This could be really shocking for you what happened to your brother, I feel with you. Hopefully he will recover soon. My thoughts is with you. Take care of yourself! *hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much - things certainly feel better today now I've had some sleep and I spoke to the hospital agin this morning and he's comfortable and brighter than yesterday and I'll see him this evening, so it's all looking good so far =)

Thanks too for getting back to me about the challenge - I've posted it now and will continue to pimp it during the week on various places, so hopefully it will go well =)

*hugs*

[bellasianna.livejournal.com]

Ok I just read the first post and now see this one.
It's good to hear he seems to be doing well so far. I'm sending every hopeful wish for his speedy recovery, and that yuo will feel up to visitng him and not be too upset by it.

*hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Thank you - he is doing better today according to the hospital as I phoned them this morning, and I'll be going in to see him this afternoon =)

*hugs*

[kimberweeme.livejournal.com]

Oh my word, I just saw this. (Naturally.) I am so sorry this happened to your family! How horrible for all of you. I hope things are looking a little bit better today.

I'll keep you, your brother, his friends, and all the family in my prayers.

*hugs*

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

Things are better today, certainly less surreal, though still horrible. But he's doing okay and he's alive and really, that's all that matters.

Thanks hone =)

*hugs*